Not what you ordered?
If you went into a Restaurant and you ordered Steak, what would you do if they bought you a Chicken and Chips? You would naturally question it and send it back, wouldn’t you?
Why is it that so many Men & Women are settling for and resenting “not what they ordered.” with the relationships in their lives?
So many of us are looking for Mr or Ms Perfect and get disappointed when it appears they are not out there.
When you are asking for a man woman in your life what do you ask for? Some of us have a list the size of Mt Everest, and some of us are mishy mashy, what if the Universe is delivering exactly what you ordered?
When you order Steak, you have a perfect picture of what that looks like in your mind, you know because of all the times you have had steak before, so it is very easy to picture it.
If you went to a restaurant and ordered a fairly thick looking brown slab of meat that is still partially red inside, maybe you would get steak or lamb or Kangaroo?
Too many times we are settling for and not recognising lamb or kangaroo and mistaking it for Steak. Why?
Because of our own self doubt and self worth and what we believe we deserve or because we are scared to be alone, or we believe that close enough is good enough or that maybe this will be the only thing that turns up, if we have been alone for a while. There are a whole host of things that we may believe because of our unconscious concepts about ourselves.
People are much more complex than a piece of steak, many different levels and layers of personality. If part of you is ordering Tall dark handsome, sexy, financially secure with SOH, values and romantic, can cook and clean, play a musical instrument and is very well presented, and another part is saying oh I am never going to be good enough for what I am ordering, or last time I had that I got hurt! And so you reduce the list to SOH, can cook and clean and play a musical instrument, is it any wonder you don’t get what you think you are ordering? So when SOH, cooking cleaning and playing a musical instrument shows up, do we sent it back? NO because of our unconscious beliefs we usually fall for it? And then resent it later when it doesn’t have all the qualities we wanted in the first place.
What if I told you that we do get exactly what we ordered every time and not only that its perfect for what we need at the time, usually it has a lot to teach us about us, but do we look to us? We learn the most about ourselves when we are relating to someone else! They are our mirror, and our order is actually ourselves showing up, the parts of us that need healing. So when they show up we are incapable of seeing at first what that is and gradually our perceived flaws are reflected in them, and instead of taking this great opportunity to heal ourselves, all the while we are focussed on them not being the steak we ordered and we stop enjoying life.
We can get stuck in the story of “this is not what I ordered” when in fact it is, and then we have discontent in our relationships coz they aren’t the perfect thing we thought we had put out for.
The perfect order always starts with you! You are the steak you are looking for! And when you accept and work thru your own issues whether they show up as chicken or steak, lamb or kangaroo you won’t care, coz your order will already be complete and you will be able to accept them for being them.